Motherhood

Lucy Liu “Didn't Do a Lot of Research” Before Deciding to Welcome a Baby in Her 40s

The actor confessed that she “didn't have a plan” when it came to motherhood.
SAN DIEGO CALIFORNIA  JULY 23 Lucy Liu visits the IMDboat At San Diego ComicCon 2022 Day Three on The IMDb Yacht on July...
SAN DIEGO, CALIFORNIA - JULY 23: Lucy Liu visits the #IMDboat At San Diego Comic-Con 2022: Day Three on The IMDb Yacht on July 23, 2022 in San Diego, California. (Photo by Michael Kovac/Getty Images for IMDb)Michael Kovac/Getty Images

Lucy Liu says she jumped head first into the deep end of motherhood without a lot of guidance.

The actor shared in a new interview with The Cut published on Thursday that when she decided to have her son Rockwell in 2015, she went into the process completely blind. “I didn't have a plan. I just thought, ‘I want to change the conversation a little bit,’” she explained. “I didn't mull it over too much. I didn't do a lot of research, I just pulled the trigger.” Liu added that she needed to act on her desire to become a parent quickly before she started thinking of all the reasons not to become one in her mid-40s. “I can think myself out of something easily,” she said. “If I think too much I won't do it. It's better for me to feel something and just go for it. A lot of people read books about parenting. I didn't do any of that. I was like, 'When the child is here, I'm just going to figure it out.'”

The Charlie's Angels star went on to say that while it's difficult to raise a 7-year-old in an urban environment, it was important to her to give her son that “experience.” Liu shared, “I definitely wanted to raise a kid in New York. People will say, 'It's not convenient, you don't even have a car,' but this way, they're going to see all the things.” She continued, “You're going to show them what's safe and what's not, and they're going to understand that through experience. It's hard to build common sense when you're in a car all the time. They're going to smell the smells.” Liu concluded, “I grew up here. I don’t take anything for granted. I take my son on the subway all the time. If I don’t feel comfortable I’ll walk out. I don’t need to sit somewhere to be polite. I’m a person of action in that sense. I have to trust my instincts. Just having an awareness helps me, but I don’t want to live in fear. I’m not going to not take risks in my life. I’m just not stupid about it.”

When the actor initially decided she wanted to become a mom back in 2015, she told People at the time that surrogacy, “just seemed like the right option for me because I was working and I didn't know when I was going to be able to stop.” She added, “I decided that was probably the best solution for me, and it turned out to be great.” And in January, she told Elle Canada of the choice, “It's a dramatic change because it's an emotional decision. And even once that happens, you don't know what's going to follow. I didn't read books, and I didn't follow certain guidelines. I think it's something you do, [something] you experience. And I kept very much to myself [during that period].”